BATH TIME FOR MOMMY!

So, I decided that in the midst of all the heat that we felt yesterday, I would give Mojo a bath. Not only because of the heat, but also because when I start to see separation in her hair, it means she is pretty dirty. As with any other bath time, she of course gave me HELL. I swear, while walking her to the bathroom, she began to look around like, "why is she taking me to the bathroom?" Once she got in there and saw the bath filled with water, she let out the infamous, "MEOOOWW," which translates to "OH HELL NO!"


This is the part where Mojo turns into "Black Mamba" her alter ego. Oh yes, she has one. Every cat does. It's where she leaves the nice cat at the door and turns into "Psycho Killer." I named her after the Kill Bill character because she strikes at no notice once she enters the tub!

I placed her inside the tub filled with lukewarm water and once she felt it, she remained pretty calm at first. She allowed me to soak her and stood there mildly enjoying it. Once I got to the part where I actually began to start washing her, she relaxed a bit more and took it in! I used Johnson's Baby Shampoo on her for 3 reasons:

1. If soap gets in her eyes, it won't burn her;
2. It smells SO good and since my baby bros all all grown now, I miss the smell so who better to use it on than Mommy?;
3. Mojo is MY baby! ENOUGH SAID!
Oh and let's not forget, it leaves her fur feeling really soft and silky.


After scrubbing her for about 5-10 mins, I rinsed her. This is where she gets crazy again because thanks in no part to E (who came in to taunt her), after saying what he felt he needed to, he left the freakin' bathroom door opened which allowed Mojo to see FREEDOM! She tried to jump out, I caught her, she wet my shirt and shorts entirely, and dripped all over the bathroom tile. Ughh! I decided to do the smart thing (hence the FAST thing) and rinse her out directly under the faucet. BAD MISTAKE! She threw me a "look." Ooh, if looks could have killed!
ENTER----BLACK MAMBA!


Once rinsed down, I have to do the "ring out." This is the part where I ring out her front paws, her back paws, her tail, her body, and again her back paws. This procedure is tiring. She has SO much hair and is a BIG cat! Plus, she is wailing, "Meooww," that's inner voice talk for, "Get me the hell outta' here!"

I wrap her in my Rainbow Brite towel (her towel was actually dirty) and soak the last of the water up. She of course, YET AGAIN, is fighting me all the way!

I walked around with her for a bit. My little brat wrapped up in a towel like a little baby, my baby; my PAIN IN THE ASS baby! Then, FREEDOM, I let her go!
She walked around leaving her "wet" imprint everywhere she either walked or sat. It looked like a shower "crime scene" with her wet footprints left throughout the apt. She air-drys for about 20 mins, I brush her out (forward/backward) and man is she shedding! Then she is done!


I continued to do my other things (i.e. finish cooking dinner). She saw that she was nicely washed, felt great, smelled good, and decided to bug me with the, "I want wet food cry."

I figured, since E and I were eating Chicken Enchiladas, Spanish Rice, and Fresh Beans for dinner, that Mojo would get some Fancy Feast Turkey Giblets in Gravy. She ate. We ate. I settled in for some AMW! E settled in with his PS3 and some Modern Warfere, and Mommy settled in on the bed, on her sheet, and fell off into a dreamy bliss of sleep (no "Black Mamba" here.


The End!

Em*

"THE PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS...is it attainable?"

"HAPPINESS IS LIKE A BUTTERFLY...
The more you chase it,
The more it will elude you,
but if you turn your attention to other things,
it will come and sit softly on your shoulder."

"WHEN ONE DOOR OF HAPPINESS CLOSES,
Another one opens;
But often we look so long at the closed door
That we do not see the one which has been opened for us!"


"BEING HAPPY DOESN'T MEAN
That everything is perfect. It means that
You've decided to look beyond the imperfections."


"HAPPINESS are the smiles on my brothers faces.
HAPPINESS is the world through the eyes of my nieces!
HAPPINESS is KNOWING I have them!


Nobody ever said we have the "right" to be happy, they only said we have the right to "pursue" it! I want to be SO HAPPY, it makes me sick!


Find your happiness as I try to find mine....

CHEATING......is it GENETIC OR ARE YOU JUST A JACKASS??

"The truth is rarely pure and never simple." ~~Oscar Wilde

There are many types of cheating: there are the "famous athletes" who improve themselves with the aid of "performance enhancing drugs,"



there those players/coaches who feel they need to cheat in order to WIN,
there are people who cheat on their taxes or tests; BUT the FIRST thing that comes to mind when you think of the word CHEATING is "infidelity." The act of going outside your current relationship in order to self-preserve your vanity, simply because it was an invited option, or just to stroke your own ego. Whatever the reasoning behind your indidelity is, it usually is frowned upon for the sake of marriage vows, a promise to love and honor, your faith, your religious beliefs, or simply to be that man/woman your parent was not.


Which brings me to ask, are you only as faithful as your "options" or can it be a genetic link?


I did a little research to see what the "pros" said about it and here's what I found:

Discovering infidelity, or deception by a loved one, creates a lot of uncertainty. We try to help couples work through their questions and concerns by providing an in-depth look at lying and cheating in romantic relationships.

Initially, most people approach the topic of lying and infidelity somewhat reluctantly - driven by their curiosity or by a recent, unexpected discovery.

For better or for worse, our romantic relationships are not always as straightforward as we would like them to be. From time to time, our intimate relationships can become complicated and complex - full of contradictions and inconsistencies.

When it comes to love and marriage, people expect a spouse to be completely honest. But, at the same time, everyone values their sense of freedom and privacy. So while romantic partners typically want to please each other, at other times, couples experience competing goals which can make telling the truth more difficult.

As it stands, our close relationships involve a lot of truth telling as well as some dishonesty.

If love was straightforward and unchanging, that would be easy to acknowledge. But, when you take a close look at the nature of love and romance, one thing becomes clear: Love creates both happiness and heartache, opportunities and constraints, joy and sorrow.

For the most part, spouses are considerate, honest and kind. But at the same time, husbands and wives, boyfriends and girlfriends, betray those they love. Unfortunately, deception comes in handy when people want to limit their partner's choices, avoid conflict or punishment, or when people want to influence their partner's behavior.

And while it is not uncommon for people to lie and cheat, it is difficult to accept that one's own husband or wife might be doing so. Who hasn't caught a boyfriend or girlfriend lying only to have him or her deny it - "I would never lie to you."

Not only can our close relationships sometimes cause heartache and anxiety, but it's also difficult to discuss lying and cheating out in the open. When you mention the possibility that love and betrayal might go hand-in-hand, people tend to get angry or they become defensive.

We know how disheartening it is to deal with these issues. But, disheartening or not, deception and infidelity are important to understand.

Even in the best of circumstances, it can be difficult to know what to believe. Many people struggle with their suspicions and concerns.

For example, people often wonder...

•Is my husband just being flirtatious or could he be tempted to cheat?
•When I ask my wife a question, why doesn't she look me in the eye?
•How come my girlfriend doesn't answer her phone?
•Why is my partner working so late?
•What's causing my boyfriend be so distant lately?
Is there an innocent explanation for everything that happens? Or could you simply be reading too much into what's going on? Unfortunately, the truth is not always easy to discern.


And actually having to investigate a spouse can quickly turn into a never-ending challenge. More often than not, this happens because a cheating spouse will rarely admit the truth even when confronted with evidence of his or her guilt.

Sadly enough, some level of suspicion might actually be warranted from time to time. Research indicates that if you want to look for deception in your own life, the best place to start is close to home. Lovers often lie about their true feelings for each other, the feelings they have for others, their level of commitment, their whereabouts... And people tend to tell their most serious and consequential lies to those they love.

At one extreme, some husbands and wives never plan on being faithful. While millions of other husbands and wives, who never intended to commit infidelity, nevertheless, still end up doing so.


And to make matters more complicated, detecting deception, or infidelity, is never as easy as people think. Not only can it be difficult to investigate a spouse, but doing so also raises a host of relational, ethical, and legal concerns - issues which are important to consider before starting to monitor a spouse.

In any case, most of the lies lovers tell go undetected because people downplay the risks that a partner would lie and most people over estimate their ability to spot their partner's lies.

For the most part, the strategy of "assuming the best" works fairly well, until the day comes when it does not, and with little warning or preparation we have to confront the reality that our close relationships are not exactly what they appear to be.

Eventually, almost everyone will catch a romantic partner in a lie. Often, it amounts to uncovering nothing more than catching a spouse telling a small, white lie. And of course, sometimes it can involve something much more serious.

When deception is uncovered, even finding out the truth about a small, white lie can lead to problems such as increased suspicion and doubt. If your spouse is willing to bend the truth about something trivial, what about something that really matters?


And when something much more serious is uncovered, people have a difficult time coping with what they have learned and dealing with the fact that someone close to them has betrayed their trust.

It’s not so much that coming to terms with deception will solve all of the problems that people are going to encounter, but it will certainty help to reduce the stress, anxiety, and uncertainty that occurs when deception comes to light.

To see more, visit their website at: http://www.truthaboutdeception.com


Okay, so in lamens terms: cheating is often one's take on what their spouse's interactions with the opposite sex should be.

Accordingly, cheating is difficult to define because people differ in the type of contact they feel it is appropriate for a partner to have with someone else.

For example, some people believe that it is unacceptable for a partner to:

•Flirt with others
•Engage in sexual talk with someone else
•Exchange personal e-mails or text messages
•Deny being married or in a relationship
•Spend time with specific individuals
•Engage in specific types of contact – sleeping in the same bed with another person
•Purchase intimate gifts and presents for others

•Chat online with someone else (online affairs)


•Have sexual contact with someone else (physical infidelity)

•Become emotionally involved with someone else (emotional infidelity)
•Develop a crush or feelings for another individual
•Share their most private thoughts and feelings with someone else
•Become best friends with someone of the opposite sex
•And the list could go on and on….

This affects all of us evenly. The only difference is that some of us unfortunately live our world in the public eye and have our relationships on display (Sorry Sandy Bullock) but TRUST ME, it's going on right now as I type.


I come from a world where "infidelity" was not surprising to me. I learned very early on the signs of cheating, the smells of cheating (no pun intended) and the LIES of cheating. I have known many cheaters and am personally guilty of doing it myself. Though in my defense, I didn't realize I was cheating and maybe I wasn't in the traditional sense of cheating; meaning I was not directly in a relationship with this person but in the end, it still hurt him, I still lied, and it was cheating!I ultimately paid the price and can tell you IT IS NEVER WORTH IT!

Nobody sets out to cheat but as I have always said, you throw enough ASS in a man's face and he is going to grab it. You mistreat a woman over and over again and she will seek attention elsewhere. But also remember this, KARMA is a true form of payback and it ALWAYS comes around!

I applaud those of you in monogamous relationships and those who truly believe in LOVE; for those of you who don't, that's okay too! Just be upfront with your partners about the state of your relationship, and discuss early on the wants/needs you have. If you can't be with ONE girl/guy then don't. But remember it's only a FAIR game when the other party is clued into what the deal is.

"If you can't be with the ONE you LOVE, love the ONE your WITH."

Em *

HAPPY ST. PATTY'S DAY!!

BEER DAY IN WHITTIER, CA!!

This year, though it was fun, was quite different because my usual sidekick was noticeably absent. I asked and was rejected yet again. However, I did venture out and hung out with some of my people from back in the days. It's so good to see them because it reminds me of a time in my life when all I did was have fun and wasn't worrying about men and their rejections.



I got dressed in the heat and left around 5pm to Whittier. I dropped by the Radisson to pick up my friend Jess and her sister and off we went to 6740 bar. It wasn't too packed when we arrived and we stood there for awhile. I had a few Modelo Especial (one with ice cubes in it and the other with lime juice) both interesting. The ice cube thing was cool in the literal sense as it kept my beer cold but as time went on, I couldn't take a good swig without having the constant flow of ice cubes hitting my front teeth. At the urging of Jess, I tried my beer with lime juice and I must say it was GREAT!!


The place got a little more packed and more friends showed up: Belin, Jess, Rob, and Lilly! It was great to catch up with my peoples. We went across the street to The Bottle Room and spent the rest of the night there. I at this point had only had 4 beers and decided to try a new drink called, "Palomino." It was on top, not bad but I wouldn't put it up there with my fav drinks. After all, I am an import girl (Tecate, Pacifico, Modelo, Negro Modelo, Carte Blanca, Hef, etc). What can I say?


Jess wants me to try more than my norm so I will "try" but I am always going to be an Old School Beer Drinker!

The night ended at 10:00 p.m. for me. Since it was Wednesday night, I figured I should leave early. I did. Only to get to E's and find him in his usual spot. At least my Mojo cooperated with ease this year!


All in all, I give my day/night
an 8 out 10. Hope everybody had a great St. Patty's Day!




SHOUT OUT TO THE ROONEYS!!!
STEELERS BABY!!



Em*

"OH WHAT A TANGLED WEB WE WEAVE, WHEN FIRST WE PRACTICE TO DECEIVE"

How can I know what you need
If you never ask
How can I drive you crazy
When I've got no gas
How could we be together
When we're so far apart
You tell me that you love me then you go and break my heart

I'll admit that I've got problems if
You say that you will help me solve 'em yes
I realize some days i can be sweet and some I'm sour
But I can't help but drink you up cause you're my happy hour
Just because
I'm never happy when I'm sobered up
I'm only good if I can have a cup



Only when you go away and I can get my things
I'm only good if I can have a "..."
Why should I be your woman
When you've got 2 more
Why should I say that I do
When I know you don't
Why should I stay here with you
When you are always gone
And why should I be open when you stay so bottled up


You were are all I ever needed
You were all I ever had
You were all I ever wanted
But you were making me bad
"I need a drink"
"can I have a part-time lover?"
"shakin' not stirred"
"and on the rocks"


Let me also say
You can't accuse me of all the things
you know that you are guilty of
And I see that it is easy for you to blame
everything on me
If that's the case I should go and have my fun
and do all the things you say I did
Boy I can't continue to take this from you
I tried to stay down for you but all these accusations are too much!


You say I was out with somebody else
When my gut told me there was another girl
(not just some girl, THAT girl)
But I didn't say anything to you because I did the same thing myself
Realize that I wouldn't do anything to disrespect you.

E = MR screwed over twice!

Em*

HOW I SPENT MY WEEK THUS FAR!

This damn "booth" has been my living hell for MONTHS! It has also been the reason that the freakin' toilet in this apt. had not been fixed for a week! Can you imagine NOT having a functioning toilet for a WEEK? Some of you cannot, trust me. I call this PROJECT PAIN IN MY ASS! It's finally almost done and not soon enough!!


Anyhow, problem #2, TOILET! Started off last week with flushing reaaaal slow, then water began to rise the next few days and then flush down slooow, then FINALLY just stopped flushing all together. We got a plumber who came out, snaked it, told me the toilet was old and that we needed a whole new toilet! Uh-huh, this after the fuckhead showed up after 2 hours! $65 dollars down the drain and still no working toilet. Then E gets a bright idea and decides that he is going to snake it himself and borrows a ladder from work, buys a snake at Lowe's and goes up on the rooftop to snake the "clogged vent." Didn't work!! Of course, in the midst of all this, I got the blame. Must have been something I threw in the toilet! MEN!! UGGH! Jump now to this Monday, we physically remove the toilet, and snake it that way. Up comes the problem! DENTAL FLOSS! That is what has been clogging us up for a week, freakin' FDA dental floss. Who may you ask is the culprit behind the disposal of this into the toilet. NOT ME!!!!!! Toilet working again! ;-) (violins begin playing, the day gets brighter)!


Of course, Mojo has to be everywhere! I will be so happy when this freakin' thing is done. BUT, I was also informed that this only leaves room for the next few projects: new bed frame, new desk, building the music computer, etc. UGGHH! MEN!!!
This man!
So over it!!
Wish me luck!


Em*

2 BIRTHDAYS and a TRAGIC LOSS of My Childhood Crush!

HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY TO MY HINES WARD a.k.a. "Hines Baby!" His birthday was yesterday and in the midst of all the "toilet drama," I forgot to make note of it. I hope that one of the BEST WR's had a great time on his b-day! I LOVE YOU! STEELERS FOR LIFE!!

A HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ROD WOODSON a.k.a. "Hot Rod!" Today is the newly, "HALL OF FAMER'S" b-day! Oh yeah! One of the BEST Cornerback's in the league! Although he played for the CHOLO-NATION, he is, was, and will ALWAYS be ours FIRST!
STEEL CURTAIN ALL DAY SON!!


My childhood CRUSH died early this a.m. My COREY HAIM! Oh how I loved him so! May he rest in peace amongst the angels! Gone too soon! I love you COREY! God must have needed you....My thoughts and prayers go out to his family!


Em*

Big Ben Roethlisberger and the BULLSHIT charges!!

Okay can we all just SHUT THE FUCK UP for a minute and let the eyes of the law convict this man (if they do) before we ream him another asshole. I mean jesus, must he immediately be talked about like he is absolutely 100% guilty? I am SO ready to go FUBAR (Fucked Up Beyond All Recognition) on the next idiot who says Ben is this or that with NO PROOF!! So this is the 2nd time around for the same bullshit...AND?


First and foremost, the first charges that were brought up against him were in a CIVIL SUIT and not for a rape suit. There was an allegation of rape that this DUMB BITCH brought to light a YEAR later in the form of a lawsuit requesting $$ for what "pain and suffering"? Give me a fucken break! These groupie SLORES (half slut/half whore) trip me out. It's like, "ooh there's Ben Roesthlisberger, I'm going to go up to him and see if we can hang out." "I'm flirting, oh he's buying us drinks, hey Ben wanna play a little?"


Ben + alcohol = RAPE x Whore in Club = $$$$$$$$$$$
That's what this is REALLY all about--MONEY! I don't care if people are saying well it happened once already and now it's being brought up again he must be doing something...YEAH he is. He's a successful QB in the NFL, young, single, and a TARGET!!! I mean you might as well put a BULLS EYE on his back!



Then people are going to bring up the whole bike crash incident...HOW LONG AGO WAS THAT PEOPLE? Come on, and the sickening part of it is that I am hearing all of these BULLSHIT words coming from "Steeler fans" talking about, "Oh I'm born and bred a Steeler for life." Really, "born and bred" huh? Then shouldn't you be standing, rallying, duking it out behind Ben and the Steelers? Art Rooney hasn't even sacrificed him yet and has said he is waiting for all the FACTS to come out! Yet ya'll are talking about Art Rooney booting him and not having to put up with him! GET THE FUCK OUT OF TOWN! MORONS!

The guy is young, talented, RICH, and an immediate target for young girls, especially young college girls. SO WHAT if he was out on the town, SO WHAT if he was at a college club. The guy is 27 years old..so what he's not to attend a college club? GROW UP? Wow, is that all you guys have got?? Again, he may have acted irresponsible for the motorcycle accident, I agree, he should have been wearing a helmet--DUH but how is THAT negative press for the Steelers franchise especially (and I hate to call out people so I won't name check) BUT when you have guys going to prison for fighting dogs, guys murdering their girlfriends and stuffing them in the trunk, guys committing vehicular manslaughter and fleeing the seen, etc. I can go on and on. YOU KNOW ALL OF THOSE I MENTIONED. THIS IS A STAND UP GUY WHO IS A TEAM PLAYER...HE IS IN IT TO WIN FOR US, FOR YOU, FOR EVERY KID WHO LOOKS UP TO HIM, FOR THE FRANCHISE, FOR ART ROONEY, FOR HIS TEAMMATES!

BEN IS I N N O C E N T!



Rape is NOT a funny/light-hearted issue, it is NOT something our society takes lightly, and it is NOT something to toy around with. So I find it disgusting that a girl sleeps with a guy/athlete/what-have-you then decides if she can make some "cheese" out of it she will and instantly cries RAPE. Not cool. Guys that do things like this whether famous or not, are usually well scoped out. What I mean is that you usually are NOT surprised to hear charges like these brought against them. But this totally surprises the shit our of me because I don't see this in Ben's character at ALL! He's done absoultely NOTHING to make us think otherwise!

Unless, I see PROOF, read PROOF, or hear PROOF straight from his mouth, he remains my QB, one of the best in the league, MY fellow Steeler, and INNOCENT until proven guilty beyond a reasonable doubt in the eyes of the LAW!

All you BEN haters can suck it! I am Steel Curtain til' I die and all of those who call themselves "Steeler FANS", you should stick by Ben and our team until proven otherwise. We don't deal with bullshit and since we are on off-season, this negative press makes BEN look bad NOT the whole franchise!
When this is ALL said and DONE, and he is proven INNOCENT which I believe he will, all you "nay-sayers" and pretend Pittsburgh fans can dive in the pool and drown!

STEEL CURTAIN!
BIG BEN ROETHLISBERGER!!
Innocent until Proven Guilty!

Em*